What in the world? Has anyone else besides me seen the previews for this TV series on ABC FAMILY of all channels!?!?!?!? They basically consist of a teenage girl holding a pregnancy test that reads she is pregnant and a look of shock and concern washing over her....what! I had sex and now I'm pregnant...this is going to mess up MY life now!!!
What the.....?!?!? Are ya kidding me? This is the Secret Life of An American Teenager. This show makes being a teenager sound depraved and guaranteed to mess up your life forever....unless you don't get caught. When did teenagers become so completely air-filled, hormone driven (and ACTING on them) maniacs or has it always been that way and I'm just living in a warp alter-world? There's no way I'm going to be able to have Cable TV in my home in the very near future and risk my child's innocence here (b/c let's face it, apparently mine went down the toilet when Friends came out and my innocence waved bye bye to me way back then- though I am going to have to force the issue with myself very soon for Slade's sake!). Yes, I KNOW he'll come face to face with it someday...but I'd rather that someday be later than sooner when he's more equipped psychologically to handle it. I'll admit I am very tempted to homeschool him, but as I tell my Primary girls - you are out there in the world among people who don't have the light of the gospel and do bad things for a reason...to help them and show them there is still light in the world, how much cooler can missionary work get- to just save one soul right? If we remove all of that light out of the schools that are becoming so desperate and depraved...what then? We'll see when that time comes...
These shows focus on the individual as being just that, an individual. Are we a bunch of thoughtless 'individuals' walking around together in the same world focusing only inwardly who only care about what is going to benefit them or how they are going to get the next free ride in life and cop to no consequences for their actions? They are always the victim and never the abuser for one reason or another. A society of individual victims - good grief!
Sorry ABC FAMILY - but I don't see my teenage daughter or son having to have a secret life filled with sex, drug, lies, pregnancy, etc... I won't be able to relate to this show regardless. I think we should petition against this show- where will the depravity STOP! When we STOP allowing it to be seen- or paying for it to be seen- on our own televisions! Maybe it's just that I don't have the soul of an artist, and don't see the beautiful abstract hurting individuals of life as something near worthy of my precious time- I see groups of capable humans who need to climb down off of their self-piteous molehill and go help someone build a mountain!
I'm going to admit to something here- I have watched Sex and the City (the editted version, not that that probably matters to Heavenly Father). I flipped by it the other day when my sister was hanging out with me after the baby was in bed and Mark was out of town. We watched the show long enough to find out that one of the women had gotten pregnant and was going to have an abortion because this horribly inconvenient thing had happened to her. The poor woman needed support from her friends. One of the friends had been trying everything she could think of to get pregnant, b/c having a child was all she ate, slept, or breathed. She was disgusted by her friend's choice and ran out. The other two women consoled her readily admitting that abortions (plural for one of them) had been the best choice for them- even though they had been stupid to get pregnant and not careful in the first place. When one of the women who'd had an abortion was discussing it with her boyfriend (who had 'stayed the night') she told him he could not tell his friend, who was teh father of the baby- b/c after all, the father doesn't have a right to know his child is going to be hideously mutilated and killed right? The guy gets mad that she told him and has put this burden on him by telling him he cannot tell his good friend. He asks her why she just doesn't have the baby and give it to friend 2. who really wants one. Her reply,"Its not like a sweater, you don't just go around letting someone else have your baby". Yes, I guess it's much much better to murder a wanted child than to have it, that makes TOTAL sense. I have been completely, fully, and utterly disgusted with that show and its followers ever since!
I think Jewel sums it up best in her recent best-selling hit (since when is Jewel a country singer?), "I'm gonna love myself more than anyone else" beautiful sentiment isn't it?
http://www.onlynewmusic.com/jewel-stronger-woman-lyrics-and-video/
We need to tell our teenagers daughters/sons to quit being a slave to themselves (thanks for the contrary advice Brittney Spears) and go out and find someone who has real issues they need help with. It takes a whole village to raise a child - but if that whole village is stuck looking at themselves in the mirror then who is going to do it?
And if I hear ONE MORE TIME that some guy (husbands especially), has a porn 'addiction' I'm going to FREAK OUT. It's not an addiction, it's a CHOICE!!! Are you NOT listening to the prophet and quorom in EVERY GENERAL CONFERENCE AND PRIESTHOOD SESSION when they specifically speak about it and tell you to stay away from it like the PLAGUE?!?!?! I know they do them in every priesthood session b/c Mark comes home and complains that he has to listen to our wonderful general authorities EVERY TIME spend their precious time and words on those who can't seem to get it straight and keep it straight!! Oh My gosh, I'm going to have a meltdown if I hear one more man who has ruined his entire eternal family because they thought seeing some fake sex was more important than a happy life FOREVER. I can count 20 guys that I alone have come across and found out (through various sources- unhappy wives, children, etc...) that this has happened to them. Just recently my neighbor left his wife and child, who he CHOSE to be sealed to for time and eternity, for another woman. Turns out he had issues with porn as well, go figure. I have 2 immediate questions: 1. Who in the heck do you think you are guy? 2. Who is this disgusting woman that he's hooked up with who will become engaged to an absolute sleezeball like this and continue to ruin his family and relationship with his son (which was already lacking from my personal witness). If it weren't for these apparently deseperate women letting these sleezeballs get away with just about anything and everything then maybe the world would be a better place. If we could control ourselves then where would the guys be able to go to work off their every desire? Who really DOES have the power here women?!!!
It's a CHOICE people. NO, JUST BECAUSE THE REST OF THE WORLD SAYS IT'S "NORMAL" DOES NOT MEAN IT'S NORMAL OR THAT GOD CONDONES IT. What is so difficult to understand here??? They should put warning labels on porn like those on cigarrettes, - WARNING: Do NOT watch this if you hope to have a happy, blessed life. Do NOT watch this if you wish to have time to better yourself when you have free time, b/c you will only end up obsessing over it and becoming so entrenched that you will lose EVERYTHING near and dear to you. Do NOT watch this if you truly care about anyone else but yourself. You will NOT be a worthy priesthood holder from this point forward. You will NOT be able to guide your family with the spirit. You will NOT have the respect or love of your family once you engage in the acts, breaking your vows, which porn invariable leads to. Need I go on?
I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE PEOPLE. Really, what is so dang difficult to understand here? QUIT WATCHING PORN. STOP IT. STOP IT RIGHT NOW. RIGHT NOW. RIGHT NOW.
Truly, if I hear of ONE MORE DUDE (sorry, but I've never personally met any woman who has such a problem, I'm sure they exist- but let's deal with the main problem here shall we?) who can't control himself or his actions anymore, ruining the lives of all around him, I am personally going to go over and flog him.
WHAT IS OUR SOCIETY COMING TO PEOPLE?!?!?
3 comments:
First, I want to say I enjoyed reading your blog. This is my first visit, so I don't want to make a bad impression, but I want to make a few comments about your statements about porn "addiction."
I am the wife of a porn addict. (Uh-oh, you're freaking out!) At first, I struggled with whether this was a real "addiction" or whether he was just being a jerk of a man. I decided it was an addiction. Does that make every man who ever views porn a porn addict? No, of course not. Just like everyone who ever drinks a beer is not an alcoholic.
Thankfully, my husband has been clean for a long time now, and I have personally seen a change in Him that is nothing short of miraculous. God gets the credit for that. Not me and not my husband.
Please take a moment and read this quote I got off Covenant Eyes website. "Pornography is physically more addicting that cocaine and ‘imprints’ the mind with images. Overcoming pornography addiction takes years, and may affect you and everyone around you, the rest of your life."
I agree with everything else you said about porn, and I'm glad to know you feel that way. I'm just curious if you would say the same thing to an alcoholic. QUIT DRINKING BEER. QUIT IT. QUIT IT RIGHT NOW.
Waiting for a reply,
Amy
im-forever-his.blogspot.com
Girl, I love you. I hope you know that. Let's get together soon! ...seriously, this life without you has gone on way too long. As soon as I get my new life with working from home figured out, I'm bugging you! Just don't say I didn't warn you!
Amy- Thanks for reading my blog- I'm pretty much just going off the top of my head about whatever I've been recently dealing with/thinking about and it is not always necessarily fully coherent (I like it raw that way I guess). This is an issue that has come up too many times that I've had to help friends/family deal with from others who are hurting them and I can't stand to see them hurting so much. I know that we have free agency and we get to choose what we want to do with it. If we choose to watch porn and it becomes an obsession...is that what addiction is and is it ok then to excuse the person from personal responsibility that they had when they decided to view it for the first time? Not so much as excuse the person, as come to an understanding that now that they've created a problem for themselves and everyone around them, how are those who have the choice to leave the now bad situation going to react...what is the Christlike approach? I eat too many sweets and sometimes feel I may have a chocolate addiction- perpetuated by myself and I suffer the consequences and have to go work out. Now that I'm married, it matters to someone besides myself how I look and my 'addiction' has begun to rule over all...it's definitely not fair (yes, this is a soft comparison, I know, but it still works). When other individuals develop such an extreeme problem as porn addition, drinking, drugs, immorality in any form, do they get to use a free addiction past or do they get called out for it and have to suffer the consequences they created for themselves...? I say if society weren't so lienient on this addiction it would not be so rampantly affecting the male population- which it so obviously and undeniably is. I'm fed up with it. I'm fed up with people accepting and unconditionally befriending a man who will do this, leave his family, have an affair, so on and so forth. Since when does free agency not followed by personal responsibility? I'm so confused as to why people think so liberally about these issues- because being so open and accepting about all of it only seems to put us further in the trenches. It's always interesting to me when there is a movie made about the future and it's always dark and dreary and the 'good' people are always running for their lives from those who have used their free agency to make the world a scary, drugged up, swearing, dirty, immoral place to be. Now that I'm a mother I see my son's life and am scared out of my wits to send someone I love so much out into this manipulated chaos and hope he makes it through ok. These 'addictions' affect not only the person and their immediate families, but those they come in contact with, those they bring into the world, they support further rampant and prodigious growth of the porn industry, and so on. These addictions are the decay of society and for some reason all anyone can think to do is make tv movies about them and tell everyone no one should have to bear any blame for their actions. I can't bear to have anyone else call me to tell me their husband has a porn addiction and things have spiraled out of control and now they are divorcing and the kids lives will be torn apart. You are a brave woman to stick through it without knowing whether or not your husband would be able to see his way out of it. Again, thanks for writing and sorry for rambling! :) It's late and tomorrow I go on vacation and forget all the bad stuff until I return to the real world.
Candice- I say we all hit up a Bees game sometime soon or meet all together for a fun dinner somewhere. Hope the work gets better! :)
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